Okay, now it's four blasts from the past. I've contacted my former colleagues, and neither was offended by my dilatory responses. I'm not sure why either man felt the urge to connect, but the conversations were pleasant, and these are men I've worked with comfortably in the past, and whose company I enjoy. Nice to catch up on news, etc.
But another former would-be swain called, in addition to the one previously mentioned (http://foilwomansdiary.blogspot.com/2009/01/ghosts-from-thepast.html). And now, except for the fact that I already have plans (dinner with Innana, SNV, and Ex-Marine Fred and a karate demo --two completely separate events, btw) for the weekend, I'd have two dates with two different guys this weekend. However, I don't have the energy or the social grace to arrange two dates on Sunday, so one guy is going to have to wait. Or disappear for another year and a half, whichever comes first.
I'm mildly flattered that in one instance, one date a year ago, and in the other, two meetings, over two years ago, have made enough of an impression on someone to inspire that person to take any action to see me again. Especially when I'm in "make absolutely no effort whatsoever" mode -- it's not that I don't want male company, I just have no energy to dedicate to obtaining male company. No energy at all.
While I completely accept that people do things for whatever reason, totally unknowlable to me, and that waiting for a year or more to contact me does not exactly communicate enthusiasm, I still wonder what triggered both of these men's outreach? It's not the new, slightly slimmer (but still not slim) me, or any newfound confidence, unless these guys have hired detectives. I know it's random, but that isn't as satisfing as having a coherent reason rather than -- hey, I just thought of you, that's all.
But that's all.
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I suppose it's always wise to keep one's eyes open. But always I'm reminded that this is all a chemical process, one which can't really be planned for or set up.
One just takes as many opportunities as one has time and energy to undertake, and some substance results from each one. It's a numbers game, I think.
And here are a couple for you! Good luck :-D
The turning of the year does strange things to people - I think there's a tendency to look back and wonder about missed opportunities.
Prom
Carpe Diem
There is something about a New Year. Since my marriage split up there has really only been one time I got properly interested in someone and she wasn't really keen. We stayed friends and all of a sudden she has changed her mind. Not that am I am complaining mind.
Good luck with it. Give them a good kick in the nags if they're not up to scratch. Most men are not so good at the subtle hints your not interested :-)
I dont know about that Andy, ive seen the signs so much i know them off by heart!
Wunelle: Yeah, it is a numbers game, and surprisingly random, but there is normally some effort/reward ratio.
Prom: Too true. Anniversaries tend to send people searching for memories of the past.
Birdman: Well, I sort of carped the diem with one guy (met for drinks) and it was pleasant . . . which is probably not the impression anyone hopes to leave a would-be-inamorata/one-night-stand/future ex. But hey, a nice evening of conversation is nothing to sneeze at. And the Pinot Noir was suprisingly good.
Andy: I'm a firm believer in no need to tell someone "I'm just not that into you" unless he's annoyingly persistent. Simply not agreeing to meet works suprisingly well. However, the one date I've been on so far was, as I said above, pleasant, but no more than that. I don't expect any follow up.
Cookie: Yes, and there are two beautiful girls in the U.S. who worship the ground you walk on. Just remember that.
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